Ep. 4: The First Step To Living The Life You Want

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There is a stigma in this society and it’s not just reserved for men. It’s caused us to remain small, feel shame, and I believe ultimately has held us all back from living our dreams. What I’m talking about is asking for help. I’ve worked with many people and they either don’t know how to ask for help or can’t accept it when it’s offered. What’s that all about?

Before I dive in to the topic a little bit in these “Show Notes” I want to give a shout out to an ISA Community Member and her name is Susan Diehl!

Susan is a Personal Fitness Coach who helps others one on one and in group settings. What separates her from other coaches is her her fun-loving and honest compassionate approach to fitness. She also takes a more holistic approach to fitness in that she ties together self-love, compassion, and tons of fun to make getting fit a loving and exciting thing to do. She definitely takes fitness to a whole new “Fun” level. You can check her out on twitter <a href=”www.twitter.com/thatgirlsaid” target=”_blank”>@ThatGirlSaid</a>, on Facebook at <a href=”https://www.facebook.com/LaughingFit”>www.facebook.com/LaughingFit</a> or on her website at <a href=”http://www.beachbodycoach.com/esuite/home/LaughingFit”>www.beachbodycoach.com/LaughingFit</a>. If you’d like to get an appreciation and a shout out join us on <a href=”http://www.facebook.com/isimplyam” target=”_blank”>Facebook at www.facebook.com/isimplyam</a> and let me hear from you. I’ll be happy to mention your business or site on the show.

The reason so many of us have trouble asking for and receiving help has everything to do with our acceptance of who we are. If we know and believe we are intelligent, strong, powerful, creative, and enough all on our own than receiving help is a blessing. On the other hand if there’s a deeper part of us that believes we’re not intelligent, not strong, or not enough than asking for or receiving help affirms how dumb, weak, and less than we really are. See how this works?

The reality is we live in Community with others and this is how we flourish! The greatest things in this world might have been imagined by one person but they were created by many. This is why we can’t be expected to do it alone and why it’s at the minimum extremely hard if not impossible to try.

One of the biggest motivators and measures we can put in place to make sure we’re meeting our goals is accountability. So what happens when we don’t incorporate the help of others when following our dreams? We have no one to hold us accountable. We imagine wonderful things happening for us and we might even have a rough outline of how to make those dreams come true. But when no one knows about our dreams we have no accountability. We slip back into our normal routines, make excuses, and those want to’s turn into would have and should have.

Jim Rohn said, “You are the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with.” Who are you spending your time with? Are they complaining about Monday’s and how awful the world is? Surround yourself with like-minded people that will lift you up and not keep you down. We tend to keep company with people that are living a similar life to ourselves. If you want more out of your life but the people closest in your life don’t want that for themselves then what do you think your chances are of actually making that change?

<strong>Weekly Challenge:</strong>

Step 1: Make a list of the people you spend the most time with.
Step 2: Separate the list into 2 categories. A. The Holder Backers (so technical, I know) and the Supporters.
Step 3: Make a conscious effort to share your hopes, dreams and goals with your Supporters and ask them to hold you accountable. Reduce or limit your time spent with the Holder Backers.
Step 4: Go online, to meetups or workshops to find more Supporters to add to your list.

<strong>How You Can Get Mentioned On the Show!</strong>

Send me an email with a question and I’ll answer it on next week’s podcast! The topic is on how to make time for things in our life. If you ever find that you’re telling yourself or others that you don’t have time this will be something you won’t want to miss. So send an email to josh@isimply.am with your questions and I’ll mention you (unless you tell me otherwise) and answer your question on the air.

Lastly, in order for the podcast to come up in the iTunes search results I need to have reviews. The show has just started and I don’t have any yet (which is totally expected). Having said that, if the podcast has resonated with you on one level or another please consider taking just a couple of minutes to leave an honest review. <a href=”http://www.iamjoshbecker/itunes” target=”_blank”>Clicking here</a> will take you right to iTunes!

With Gratitude and Appreciation,

Josh